A very good friend of mine reminded me that we teach people how to treat us by what we allow, what we stop and what we reinforce. Her advice was exactly the reminder I needed as I continue to battle the plague of “controlling people”. There will always be people that will expect and command that you conform to their way of thinking and their reality of life. No one deserves this and you shouldn’t be blinded by love either. Sometimes I wish I can just tell them all too just… wait rather not… better not… We all need some kind of balance in life, a balance between holding on and letting go.
We can learn a little something from Disney right about now, it’s definately time to let go when the pattern persists, the situation is holding you back from growing and being who you want to be, when you feel unheard or disrespected, when you are forced to smile to mask your true feelings, if the situation causes you more pain than joy and most importantly, when you start becoming resentful. If you feel that your life is being run by someone other than you, then you have break that chain around your neck and begin truly living.
A simple guide to happiness:
Accept the truth and be thankful
Distance yourself for a while
Focus only on what can be changed
Claim full control of your life
Change the people around you
Take a chance
Focus on today
Live your life the way you want to live it. Spend time with those people who you want to spend time with. Do things that will make you feel the way you want to feel and not just in the moment, but for all time.
I’ve come to learn that personal growth is hardwork, it’s what we do in our mind to change how we live. It can be exhausting and frustrating, but it’s worth it.
We really are free to live our lives however we wish and to make of it whatever we want to make of it. We just need to allow ourselves the privilege of owning our lives.
Understand that letting go and moving on means very humbly and slowly gesturing in the direction of which you would like to reach.